Stand Up! Stand Out! Find Your Voice!

What is your true voice? Do you have a burning passion? Do you have a message to share?

We ALL have a message to share. Some share it powerfully and profitably. Some will never share their message.

Fear, frustration or self-doubt can silence our message.

Let me share the ABCs of finding your true voice and sharing your message, using the whole self approach, your body, mind and soul.

Your voice is unique. It has a sound quality that is all your own, like a fingerprint. We have many thoughts and judgments about the physical sound our voice speaks. We need to find our strong, vital and lively voice tone (body) to be successful. Our voice is our power. Our voice expresses our thoughts, feelings and intentions (mind). Our voice shares our mission, our purpose in life and our experiences. The “Who” we are (soul). Discover your true voice.

Step A: Awareness. Ask yourself the tough questions.

Who am I, truly? What am I here for? What are my dreams, hopes and ambitions?

What have I done in my life that I am most proud of? What is the one thing that is most special about me? What is my message? Write out all of the answers. Take your time with this. If you feel too confused, ask for help (coach, counselor, friend).

The first step is to understand ourselves, become more aware and become conscious of our beliefs about who we are. You Find Your Voice. If we don’t know who we truly are, we will not attract people to our mission, our purpose or to our cause.

Step B: Belief System. Do you truly believe?

You now know who you truly are. You know what you believe. This step is to claim it. We may think and know our purpose, dreams and intentions, but do we really believe it? Do we have any doubt or fear? We can have a meaningful message, yet be too afraid to share it. Do you see yourself as someone who has something important to say? Is what you say valuable, purposeful and meaningful to you, to others? What you say becomes what you Stand Up for. You stand for your purpose, what you want out of life. Do you believe with your whole self? Mind, body and soul? 

Step C: Connection.

Next step, is to Stand Out. You know who you are, you fully and completely believe in your  message and now you need to put your mission into action. We claimed it with our belief, now we make it our own, make it real. How do you share your mission and make it real? By bringing others into your cause. Connecting with others by sharing your message, saying what you believe in and taking action will bring you success. When we find our voice and use it to speak our truth, to create our dreams and set our intentions into motion, we change the world.

This is the first 3 steps to our birthright. To complete our mission here on Earth. To find the courage and clarity we need to change this world. There is so much more to sharing our message, the practical as well as the magical. Let me share more with you, as we change the world. Join the Boldly Brilliant Facebook group (it’s free) at http://facebook.com/groups/beboldlybrilliant

You take your life into your own hands, and what happens- A terrible thing- no one to blame.Erica Jong

21 Most Important things to do Networking.

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Networking is all about creating and building relationships. It is NOT about selling! Research says the average contact points to make a sale is 17. The probability of you making a sale the first time you meet someone is very low, though it can and has been done. So, stop thinking about selling and start thinking about how you can help the new people you meet. Start creating and building relationships.

Some people love to network and others fear it or hate it. Which are you? Do you like networking, meeting new people, starting conversations with strangers? Are you an introvert or an extrovert? How does that effect your networking?

We think of introverts as being shy and extroverts as being out going. It’s not that simple. Introverts may or may not be shy. Introverts do lose energy when around lots of people. They need to be alone to recharge after being with other large groups of people. Extroverts gain energy when around lots of people. They feel their energy zapped when they spend too much time alone. Brain scans done on introverts and extroverts found that introverts process stimulation (other people, talking, engaging) differently then extroverts. Introverts stimulate through a long, complicated pathway through areas of the brain in the remembering, planning and solving problems parts of the brain. Extroverts have a very quick and short response to stimulation through the brain pathway areas of sensory connection of visual, auditory, touch, smell, taste.

Carl Jung, a great psychoanalyst first coin the terms introvert and extrovert. He said that no one is all, 100% introverted or extroverted. In fact, we are all mostly ambiverts who have both introverted and extroverted qualities. Whether you are mostly an introvert or mostly an extrovert, you can be successful at networking.

Networking is both an Art and a Science. Here’s how to create rich, meaningful and extraordinary relationships while networking.

  1. Say Hello and SMILE-Smiling is engaging. People are attracted to smiles. We have automatic facial feedback and we will smile back when someone smiles at us. Smiling has been found to make you healthier, have less stress and makes you look better, more attractive. Lighter Yoga is very popular because we want to smile, laugh. The average person smiles 20X a day. The average child smiles 400X a day. Research has shown that people who smile more, live longer and are more successful.
  2. When people ask you “How are you” or “How do you do,” say “I’m fantastic!” Or, say “I’m fabulous,” “I’m amazing,” “I’m awesome,” “I’m incredible.” Usually the answer to “How are you?” is “OK,” “Good,” or “Fine.” Answer in an uplifting, happy and enthusiastic way and people will wonder why. It’s a conversation starter.
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  3. Remember to listen! Hearing is only listening to what is being said. Listening is also hearing what is not being said. Ask people questions and listen. Thinking about what you’re going to say next is not listening. Be fully present. Use phrases like “Tell me more…” or “Tell me about your business…life…hobbies…what you do for fun…” Be a good listener. Speak to the person’s listening.
  4. Take your time in networking. It’s not a race to meet as many people as you can. One really great, high quality conversation is worth way more than 20 superficial conversations.
  5. Tell personal stories, not just what do you do. Personal stories are more interesting and people will remember you more. Our brains are geared more to remembering stories not facts.
  6. Ask about their families, loves, fun things they do, the most challenging thing they’ve ever done. Ask about the best thing that ever happened to them. Their best vacation. Invite them to tell personal stories.
  7. Conversation starters are can be as simple as asking the 5 W’s Who-What-When-Why-Where
  8. Compliment people with integrity and sincerity. Compliments are also great conversations starters.
  9. Be friendly, encouraging, entertaining.
  10. Look for people who are alone. Go up to meet them.
  11. Talk about the event, the speaker.
  12. Ask for advice. People love to give advice.
  13. Set a goal. Talk with 5 people or 10 or 20. Or, just 1 person.
  14. Organize your own event. Meet up.
  15. Show up early when there are less people present.
  16. Volunteer at the event/meeting. Door greeter, registration desk and food service are all ways to meet people easily and allows you to decide who might be a good fit for you and a later conversation.
  17. Bring your business cards. Make them unique. Maybe a Bookmark, a packet of seeds, a flower or balloon attached to your card. Step out of the box with your business cards.
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  18. Have your 30 second to 90 second elevator speech ready. Make it compelling. Know the problem you solve and the solution. Add something amazing you have accomplished. Practice, Practice, Practice saying it.
  19. Focus on what you can do to help others. Remember the 17 contacts. This is only the first. Build your relationships.
  20. Be prepared. Know who who will be there. What the organization is about. When and Where it is and why you are going. Look up the organizers on LinkedIn and get to know them in advance. Dress professionally.
  21. Follow up. After networking, follow up with everyone you talked with. Write notes on the back of the business cards you receive, so you can remember the person and what you asked about. Give a personal account in the followup email of what ou talked about. Invite them to something. A different networking meeting, blab, Facebook group or coffee.

Make your networking successful and valuable to your business by following these simple 21 steps. There are a lot more tips and tools to networking. Join the Boldly Brilliant Facebook group to learn more. Click this link.

http://facebook.com/groups/BeBoldlyBrilliant 

Last and most important…Be who you are, Be yourself! Follow up!

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The Beginner’s Business Women’s Guide To Entrepreneurial Success

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Do you want to know the 3 simple beginner steps every woman entrepreneur needs to know to start and grow a profitable business?

If you’re a Woman Entrepreneur who wants to start and grow a profitable business without letting lack of knowledge hold you back, then you need to read this immediately.

Your 3 Beginning Steps

Step #1: Protect Your “Getting Started” Schedule

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Here’s what will happen if you don’t protect your “getting started” time:

You’ll never get started and your dream will remain just that – a dream.

While that may sound harsh, it’s simply the reality.

If you don’t protect your “getting started” time, there will always be something, someone, someone else’s need, an “emergency”, or just plain old procrastination, to keep you from starting your new business.

Block out your “getting started” time and then protect it, ferociously.

Step #2: Create your support team

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Launching a new business without a team in place greatly increases the chances of your dream not coming true.

Just like launching with your team in place greatly increases your chances of success.

An important task is to create 2 lists:

– A list of what you know and what you are skilled at doing

– A list of what you do not know and what you’re not good at doing.

 

Build your team with people who are:

1) Good at what you are not, and

2) Enjoy doing what you hate to do.

Step #3: Don’t go it alone – get a coach who can walk you through the process

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You can reinvent the wheel, but why?

Going it alone is a prescription for failure.

One of the greatest values of having a coach is they are someone who has “been this way before” and can take years off your learning curve.

Having someone else’s eyes on your business is invaluable, because as talented as you are, there are things you cannot see that a great coach will.

Now that you’ve got these 3 beginning success steps for women entrepreneurs down,

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What your Mother never told you about Facebook?

First, let me say “I have had a wonderful time with the Ultimate Blogging Challenge!”   Photo1

I have so enjoyed reading other people’s blogs from Haiku to Heartburn. From Love to Losing weight. From gaining weight and recipes to getting a new romantic partner. And, lots of great business advice! Amazing work, everyone!

I am so excited to join with Michelle Shaeffer and follow her as she starts a NEW BLOG from beginning to end. I hope you do, too!

I didn’t once read anything I wouldn’t want my Mother to read. Somewhere on Facebook or in a blog, I recently read that a young woman did not want to ask questions or leave comments on a Facebook page for fear her Mother might see.

NOW, I know why my youngest son de-friended me! It’s OK. My other two sons are still my “friends” as well as their lovely wives.

So, if your Mother never told you about Facebook, please let me. It is a wise idea NOT to post on Facebook or in a blog that which we would not want our Mother to read. Once cast in print, we never can really retract. Many times, I have wanted to rant, rage, romance or rebel with words I would not want my children to hear me say, but I don’t!

After all, more than your Mother may be watching!

Sign up at http://www.facebook.com/BeBoldlyBrilliant and rant, rage, romance and rebel all you want! I’m not your Mother!

 

Am I a failure if I miss posting a blog in the UBC, a Blogging Challenge?

 

I am participating in the Ultimate Blog Challenge. Go to www.UltimateBlogChallenge.com for more info.

Am I a robot? Or, do I make conscious choices?

Am I a robot?
Or, do I make conscious choices?

For 31 days, the challenge is to blog every day. I have missed a few days and it was the BEST thing that could have happened. I am a recovering competitive perfectionist, so missing the blogs, kick up lots of old feelings for me.

I was feeling inadequate, depressed and anxious. Then, I realized what I was doing. The old recovering, competitive, perfectionist thing.

What and WHO am I really doing this Challenge for? The answer is…ME! I decide, I make the choice. There are no UBC police. This is for me! I call the shots. I write the blogs. Whoo! Got it!

Old behaviors and old beliefs are a challenge, too. Last blog, I presented a belief changing practice using the 5 pillars of change (body, mind, emotion, spirit and energy). Thought I would use the “missing blogs” as an example of that practice, as a way to stop being stuck, get clear and move on.

Body:
Checking in with my body, I sense uneasiness in the heart region. I feel tightness in my chest and a little numbness in my legs. I turn on some music (Norah Jones) and start to free-dance, moving my body sensually with ease and joy. Focusing on the movements. My body responds. I feel free and relaxed.

Mind:
Ask the questions:
What is the voice saying? “What’s wrong with you, you’re failing, giving up?”
What is the thought? “You never finish anything you start.”
What is the belief? “Never good enough.”

Now, I start to feel the shift. The voice changes and says “You’re not giving up. You are making a conscious choice. There are more important things to be done right now and that is OK! You will get back to it.”

Emotion:
How am I feeling? Before, I was feeling Inadequate, anxious and a bit depressed. After dancing, I feel calm and relaxed.

Spirit:
Checking in with spirit by sitting on my meditation cushion and breathing, closing eyes, breathing. Do the “scan the past, scan the present, create the future” meditation. Feel connected, rested and very present.

Energy:
Check in with energy, feeling contented, all is well. Energy higher. A simple process. With this high energy, I get clear on next steps and goals. Write them down. Journal in my special “Random Thoughts, Rants, Rages and Peace Offerings” journal about feelings and thoughts.

It’s an easy process, an easy formula and an easy practice. Takes about 10 minutes to do and then “YOU ARE FREE!”

Think I will go write a blog!

What do you do when you get a stop, get stuck or distracted?

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