Day 8…Self-Care in a Stressed Out World

Confession time. I skipped a few days in the blogging of the 21 Day Self-Care Sensation Celebration and Challenge! A few days that were too full with work, care of elderly father, visit by son and daughter-in-law and making a home of my week old apartment by unpacking the stacked, ceiling high boxes. Even so, I did practice my self-care! I ate cake! And, we all know stressed is desserts spelled backwards. I wasn't really stressed. No stress, just day to day busyness.

Real stress is below.

Yesterday was the 6 month anniversary of the senseless killings at Sandy Hook Elementary. The NSA reads my emails. Fires raging in Colorado. We live in a stressed out world. How we make peace in this madness is the purpose of Self-Care. How do we stay present, alive in our skin with compassion for all, including ourselves?

“The most powerful relationship you will ever have is the relationship with yourself.” Quote by Steve Maraboli

We start with that most powerful relationship, the one with our self. By practicing self-care, we bring peace to us, peace to the people in our lives (who want us to be fully there for them, not half empty) and peace to our world.

What will you do for Self-Care today? For me, I plan to play pool (the ball and cue kind, Billiards, Snooker).



Day 3 Walking by the Water Soothes me…

21 Day Self-Care Sensation Celebration and Challenge!

Day 3: Walking by the water always soothes me.

Today, I am considering what self-care means to me. What is the definition of self-care?

There is no widely accepted, single definition of self-care. The Dictionary simply says “care for oneself: self treatment”. We have come to know self-care as much more than that. Many groups try to define self-care from Wikipedia to the NIH; there are a lot of definitions. All of which are very different.

For me, self-care is whatever we want it to be. We know what our bodies, minds and spirit need to feel comforted and soothed.

We know what feels good.

Many years ago, I wrote a Master’s thesis in Counseling Psychology entitled “Burn-out in the Helping Professions”. It was about healing the healers. Many healers (therapists, nurses, doctors, EMTs and clergy) suffer from burn-out or stress. We know stress causes depression, substance abuse, health problems and relationship problems to name a few.

I was working in a Thanatology unit in Los Angeles (very high levels of stress) and we created a “Scream” closet where the nurses could go in and just “Scream” to let out their frustration, grief and other emotions. Self-care can take many forms, not just a manicure.

We care for the body with healthy foods and exercise.

We care for the mind with meditation, music, prayer, writing and laughter.

We care for our spirit with art, connecting with others, being in love, staying positive and staying present.

What’s your definition of self-care?

Only YOU can know what soothes you.

Only YOU can know what relieves your stress.


Quote by Deborah Day

“Nourishing yourself in a way that helps you blossom in the direction you want to go is attainable, and you are worth the effort.”