Business Burnout! Look for these Signs…

Business Burnout is a very real problem, especially for solo-preneurs. Even though partnerships can have their ups and downs, at least you have someone to handle some of the stress and responsibility. Solo-preneurs are by themselves and feel the entire weight of their success on their lone shoulders. This large responsibility often leads these business owners to work 14+ hour days and lose track of what’s happening at home with their families. But is focusing so much attention on your business a wise decision?

No, not if you want to achieve a work/life balance that makes you and your family happy. Even if you’re single, making time for self-care and relaxation will improve your overall health and mental wellbeing. Let’s talk about the 5 signs to look for that indicate you might be headed toward a burnout.

  1. Insomnia. If your brain can’t shut down because you’re consumed with work, your sleep pattern will get disrupted, leaving you overtired, lacking energy, and lacking the mental energy to make wise business decisions.
  2. Procrastination. Do you cringe at the length of your daily to-do list? Did these tasks once excite you but now they make you want to crawl under a rock? Procrastination leads to missed deadlines and opportunities to promote your business.
  3. Tired or Fatigued. The human body is only capable of handling so much stress on limited sleep. Certainly, you’ve heard the phrase “burning the candle at both ends”? That’s what happens when you work yourself to the bone and don’t give your body and brain enough time to recover before starting another high-stress day.

At some point your body will want to give up, causing severe fatigue and other possible illnesses that will keep you out of your business.

  1. Changes in appetite. For some people, stress causes them to overeat; for others, stress reduces their appetites. Neither extreme is good for your body. For optimal health and mental clarity, take lunch breaks away from the desk and choose natural, healthy food choices instead of fast food items.
  2. Anxiety. High stress causes anxiety, which can cause crippling fear or other physical symptoms. Keep in mind: there’s a big difference between the anxiety you feel when stepping out of your comfort zone versus stress-induced anxiety that doesn’t seem to go away.

Think about this: as a solopreneur, if you are not physically able to run your business, what happens to it? Chances are, you’d have to close your doors and any streams of income you currently have will disappear. And, we don’t want that to happen!

Take care of your whole body, mind, and spirit. Take quiet time to relax. Get outdoors and breathe in some fresh air. Unplug for a whole weekend and live in the moment with your family. Reconnect with old friends. Start a hobby.

I discovered amazing changes in my own business and my mindset, once I started taking care of myself and living my life for me, not just my business.

I have lots of ideas for your Self-care and how to streamline your business. Join me every day this week, October 8-12 at 3 pm ET for the Facebook Live-inar in the Be Boldly Brilliant Facebook group.

Join us here: https://Facebook.com/groups/BeBoldlyBrilliant

There are so many choices for Self-Care. Let’s share them. Join the 5 Day Self-Care Challenge! Post a text, an image, a video or a Facebook Live of your Self-Care for the day. Post each day and be in the random drawing for a $20. Amazon gift card.

Do you know friends who need some TLC and Self-Care? Invite them to join us in the Challenge. https://Facebook.com/groups/BeBoldlyBrilliant

 

How to Deal with the Trolls. Smack!

Are you plagued by Trolls? Sometimes you just want to SMACK them, right? Let's talk about how to deal with Trolls.

As you become more popular you’re going to get more people who love you, but also more people who hate you. And, actually they don’t even hate you, they just like to be trolls.

It is important to know how to deal with these types of people so that you can use social media marketing to build traffic, make more connections, and increase your return on investment.

Develop a Policy

If you have many people helping you manage social media, you need to develop a policy. There is a difference between a troll and someone who has something negative to say. Therefore, you want to treat them differently.

A troll should be blocked, and their comments deleted. Someone who is negative might just need some extra attention to turn them around.

Ignore Real Trolls

When someone is a real troll they have nothing useful to say at all and are intent on disrupting a discussion or even an entire business. These types of people may even be paid to do so. You have no way of knowing. The best course of action is to ignore them, delete, and block them.

There is an exception to this rule. If the issue becomes widely known due to not deleting fast enough, you may have to “out” the troll for who they are and let your real audience deal with them.

Make a Joke Out of It

 Sometimes trolls and negative people are a little bit funny. It depends on your audience of course, but if you can make a joke out of something that’s a great way to deal with it. For example, if someone asked you what is taking so long for a shipment to get to them and you know you mailed it the day they ordered it, you may need to point out in a humorous way that you have no control over the post office.

Look for The Deeper Message

 Sometimes trolls or people who make negative comments are just unhappy people who need something. If you can read between the lines and find a better message answer that message and ignore the nastiness. Killing them with kindness can work very well for getting rid of trolls.

Hire or Get Volunteer Moderators and Ambassadors

 When your community grows very large you may need to get help managing your social media to prevent the proliferation of spammers and trolls from taking over your page or community. One of the reasons some big-time coaches have ended their Facebook Groups has to do with poor group management. If it gets too big, get some help.

Build Relationships with Your Community

 Have real conversations with members of your community and let them get to know you. Don’t just sell them all the time. When someone is nasty or trolling, report it.

Show the Facts

 If it is appropriate, baffle the negative person or troll with facts. If you have facts you can prove with real study and research, you will find that most of your community will value what you are saying a lot more than someone who drives by with some negative info.

Dealing with trolls and negative people can be daunting.  And, if this starts happening take heart in the fact that it is mostly because your community is growing, which is a good thing. Don’t take it personally.

The very best thing you can do about a troll is to not provide a platform for them, delete and block them.

For more information on how you can use Facebook Live to grow your community, attract more clients and make more money, join our Facebook group here: https://BoldlyBrilliant.com/FacebookLive 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The New Courage

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I was driving on the Tappan Zee Bridge yesterday at a snail's pace and I had an epiphany. So many people just squirm and never really get started moving. It's true in business and in life. It's like we are stuck in the mindlessness and indoctrination of society to be a way that our body, mind and soul do not want to be. We are never real and never fully present. We are masked and we are polite.

We stay stuck, we procrastinate and we get nowhere. What we need is the New Courage. The courage to speak out, take action and risk moving forward with our dreams and desires. How do you get the New Courage? First step, you get real with your self and with others. No more hiding out with the ego. Say what you mean and do what you say. No sugar coating.

Stop listening to all the voices in your head. Use one true voice, focus the voice and speak in that voice. Don't think of outcomes. Think focus. Write the focus out with your hands or ON your hands. Place it where you can see it. Speak the focus to all who will listen. Smell success. Taste the success. Engage all your senses in the process. This is New Courage. The empowering of your full body, mind and soul in action.

Most of us will never truly speak. Or, we will stop after we speak and will continue to squirm. To move forward takes all of our body, mind, senses and soul to engage.

Be the New Courage.

Day 8…Self-Care in a Stressed Out World

Confession time. I skipped a few days in the blogging of the 21 Day Self-Care Sensation Celebration and Challenge! A few days that were too full with work, care of elderly father, visit by son and daughter-in-law and making a home of my week old apartment by unpacking the stacked, ceiling high boxes. Even so, I did practice my self-care! I ate cake! And, we all know stressed is desserts spelled backwards. I wasn't really stressed. No stress, just day to day busyness.

Real stress is below.

Yesterday was the 6 month anniversary of the senseless killings at Sandy Hook Elementary. The NSA reads my emails. Fires raging in Colorado. We live in a stressed out world. How we make peace in this madness is the purpose of Self-Care. How do we stay present, alive in our skin with compassion for all, including ourselves?

“The most powerful relationship you will ever have is the relationship with yourself.” Quote by Steve Maraboli

We start with that most powerful relationship, the one with our self. By practicing self-care, we bring peace to us, peace to the people in our lives (who want us to be fully there for them, not half empty) and peace to our world.

What will you do for Self-Care today? For me, I plan to play pool (the ball and cue kind, Billiards, Snooker).

 

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Day 5…pretty feet!

Some say there is a big difference between self-indulgence and self-care. Manicures, Facial care, Massages and Mud Baths would come under self-indulgence. Working out at the gym, eating healthy foods and hiking in the woods would be self-care. I am not sure I like a clinical, health only oriented view of Self-Care. I see Self-Care as the process of soothing the soul and healing the body. Maybe that's breathing and meditating, maybe that's bargain clothes shopping. Who can say what soothes your soul? Only you know what brings you peace, that calmness and the feeling that all is right with the world.

I have found that many things that bring me self-care, may bring someone else fear, distaste or boredom. We each are ultimately responsible for our care. Many folks neglect self-care. They put others first, especially women. The problem is without taking time for our own care, we have little or none to honestly and freely give to another. Our giving isn't real or authentic, if tainted by frustration, anger or resentment.

“Don’t sacrifice yourself too much, because if you sacrifice too much there’s nothing else you can give and nobody will care for you.” Quote by Karl Lagerfeld

Wise thoughts, Mr. Lagerfeld. Take time for Self-Care, fill up the glass! You deserve it!

Today, I chose “Pretty feet.”