HOW NEGATIVE SELF-TALK CAN DESTROY YOUR BUSINESS

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Negative Self-Talk Can Destroy Your Business.

“I’ve never been good with money.”

“I hate budgets.”

“I’ll never be a 6-figure earner.”

If you’ve ever heard these statements come out of your mouth—or even in your head—then you’re engaging in a damaging habit known as negative self-talk. By telling yourself these lies (and yes, they are lies) you’re reinforcing the beliefs that go along with them.

What you visualize and believe is what becomes true.

Tell yourself that you’re not good with money, and you won’t be. Believe that budgets are horrible chores to be reviled, and you’ll resist creating one. Convince yourself that you can’t earn a 6-figure income, and you won’t.

It’s not “the secret.” It’s a scientific fact. Known as a self-fulfilling prophecy, this kind of self-talk results in poor performance simply because we act as if it’s already true.

If you tell yourself that you’ll never be a 6-figure earner, you will not do the things that 6-figure business owners do. You won’t work to grow your mailing list (“No one reads my emails anyway”), you won’t increase your coaching rates (“It’s not like I’m some top-earning coach”), and you won’t build a brand worthy of a 6-figure income (“A beautiful brand isn’t necessary at this income level”).

By contrast, if you act and think as if you already are a 6-figure earner, you’ll approach your business quite differently. Your confidence level will increase. You’ll present a very different brand to your prospective clients. You’ll go out of your way to connect with those who can and will afford to pay your higher rates.

How to Combat Negative Self Talk

The first step toward changing your negative self-talk is to simply acknowledge that you do it. Tick a mental checkbox every time you catch yourself making negative statements, whether out loud or in your head.

Make a note of the ones that come up most often for you and identify their origin if you can. For example, if your ex-husband continually berated you for your spending habits, chances are your “I’m no good with money” mantra can be laid right at his feet. It’s time to turn that thinking around.

Catch Yourself

The next time you catch yourself saying “I’m no good with money,” take a minute to recall 5 instances where you were good with money. Maybe you paid off your credit cards or saved for a house or built an emergency fund. Rephrase your self-talk to, “I used to be bad with money [if that’s true], but now I make smart choices to achieve my goals.”

Just as negative self-talk becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy, so does positive self-talk. Reframe your thinking, and your business will certainly improve.

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SELF-SABOTAGING BEHAVIORS THAT KEEP YOU FROM EARNING WHAT YOU’RE WORTH

 

Self-Sabotage, we all do it. No matter how successful you are, at one time or another you will fall into the self-sabotage trap. There are two, big self-sabotaging behaviors that will keep you from making the income you deserve. These self-sabotaging behaviors will keep you from earning your worth.

  • Your income will suffer.
  • Your self-esteem will take a dive.
  • Your confidence will be gone.

The end result is? Frustration. Burnout. Resentment (of yourself, your clients or your business). And yes, even more self-sabotaging behaviors. This downward spiral can quickly turn devastating, but stopping it is easy when you learn to recognize the symptoms.

Procrastination

Did you sign up to do someone’s popular podcast and forget about it? Or maybe you were going to send a proposal to a potential new client, but waited too long? Or maybe you simply waited too long to take advantage of a sale price on a hot new app or a new training that everyone’s raving about.

These and other missed opportunities can often be blamed on simple procrastination, one of the most destructive habits we suffer from. Procrastination is what keeps us working late at night to make a deadline, costs us money in late fees, and even costs us business.

If you’re prone to procrastination, try these techniques to put an end to it:

  • Recognize your fear. What often keeps us stuck is simple fear. We’re afraid that even with that amazing coach we still won’t reach our goals, so we don’t do the homework. We’re afraid we’ll look bad when compared to other proposals, so we just don’t send one. But if you want to be successful in business, you must learn to recognize and face your fears, then do the work anyway.
  • Visualize the life and business you desire. Imagine what it will be like to have that amazing business you’ve been dreaming about. Picture your ideal workday, daydream about that fabulous vacation you’ll take, and imagine VIP days with your ideal client.
  • Reward yourself. It’s okay to give yourself a little incentive for getting things done. Take yourself out to lunch; buy a new pair of shoes; take an afternoon off. Do what’s most likely to motivate you to power through your fears and take the next step.

Failing to Complete Your Projects

Be honest. How many half-written books, partially planned programs, and unfinished products are cluttering up your hard drive right now?

If you’re like a lot of entrepreneurs, the answer is probably several.

You started all of them with great enthusiasm. You planned out the modules or chapters, created the slide decks, and maybe even outlined the sales page. And then…you just stopped working on it.

Maybe you tell yourself that you’re too busy. Maybe you “need to do some more research.” Or maybe you simply lost interest. But the truth is, none of those are the real reason. For a lot of coaches, this self-sabotaging habit is actually a symptom of a lack of confidence, and it’s keeping you from the success you deserve.

Consider this: You cannot know the actual success rate of a program you’ve never finished, and you cannot improve upon something you’ve never completed. So rather than filling your computer with half-finished projects, power through and start releasing them—even if you believe they’re not perfect, and even if you think they’ll never sell.

You can’t earn income if you don’t sell. People who fear selling never make a sale. They will continue to procrastinate and leave products and programs unfinished.

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Attract Clients: 3 Ways to Attract Clients with Someone Else’s Help.

 

It’s easy to attract clients or customers that you need, by getting someone else’s help.

Ask nearly anyone who runs an online business what their biggest struggle is, and chances are they will say “more traffic” or “more clients.”

You need traffic/clients to build an email list.

You need traffic/clients to make sales.

You need traffic/clients to fill your coaching programs.

The big question is, where do you get the traffic and thus the clients?

Sure, you could buy ads, but if you aren’t careful, you might just fill your list with less-than-ideal audience members and that will do nothing for your sales. You could focus your time and energy on search engine optimization but unless you have years to build your business (and who does?) then SEO should not be your top choice.

Good thing you have other options.

Way #1 Be a Guest

Everyone needs content. It’s the one thing that remains consistent among all content creators—there is never enough. That’s where you can help.

By guest posting on other coaches’ blogs, you can “borrow” some of their traffic.

You can’t simply regurgitate old content and send it out in a dozen directions though. To get the best results, you’ll want to:

  • Create custom content designed with your host’s unique audience in mind.
  • Provide stellar value with actionable ideas and strategies not found everywhere else.
  • Inject your personality so those new to you will instantly connect with you.
  • Offer a compelling reason to click through to your website or blog for more information.

Way #2 Partner Up

No list? Here’s a quick way to “borrow” someone else’s list to kickstart your own: Schedule a free event with a partner.

Here’s how it works.

  1. You (as the one with the small list) create a compelling, free training which leads naturally to a low-cost, no-brainer product.
  2. Install an affiliate tracking system such as aMember, Infusionsoft or 1Shopping Cart.
  3. Offer your best affiliates a higher percentage of profits in exchange for co-hosting your webinar and bringing their traffic along for the ride.

This is a win/win for both of you, as you gain the traffic while your affiliate gets a bigger payday. Just be sure you have a good funnel in place so that your new list members can benefit from all that you have to offer.

Way #3 Get Interviewed

Want to really show off your expert status and bring traffic back to your site, too? The easiest way is to get on the interview circuit. Just like authors with new books and actors with new movies, coaches and service providers can get in front of new audiences simply by answering questions about what they know.

There are plenty of opportunities out there for coaches and consultants in every niche.

Look for interview and speaking opportunities on:

  • Podcasts
  • Other blogs
  • YouTube
  • Periscope
  • Facebook Live
  • Local events
  • Industry conferences
  • Summits
  • Give-a-Ways

Start by reaching out to your colleagues and to podcast and blog hosts you most admire. Get the word out with your friends and your list that you’re looking for opportunities.

Even if you don’t yet have a list of your own, it’s easy (and fun) to kickstart your audience growth simply by making yourself available for these and other opportunities. Each guest post, podcast interview and webinar are another chance to get in front of a whole new audience, so take advantage of it!

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More Important Than Money: Understanding Why You Really Do What You Do

What do super-successful small business owners and entrepreneurs all have in common?

It’s not experience.

It’s not extraordinary skills.

It’s not even a powerful drive.

Although all of these things can definitely help your business grow, they’re not a prerequisite for success. After all, no one is born with experience or skills, and plenty of successful people lack drive.

The one thing that does make a difference, though, is your “why.”

Why did you decide to start a business?

Why do you spend too many hours in front of your computer every week?

Why do you stay up too late and get up too early, just so you can work on growing your business? Why do you buy every online marketing program, but rarely implement it or if you do, it doesn’t work for you.

The “why” is what ultimately drives us to success, but here’s the thing: it’s different for everyone. Your why is not my why, and my why is not your why.

It’s a deeply personal choice that can have great meaning…or not.

For example, a survivor of domestic abuse might happily spend 60 or 70 hours each and every week mentoring other victims of abuse, or counseling couples on how to break the cycle. Her big why is a strong desire to prevent other women from suffering in the same way she did.

A mother of small children may be saddened at the thought of sending her kids to daycare, just so she can go to work to (barely) pay for it. Her big why is a drive to spend as much time with her kids as she can, while still supporting her family.

A young, fresh out of school entrepreneur might resist taking the same path her parents took, working for a corporation for 40 years, only to retire and find themselves with barely enough to live on. Instead, she dreams of having the income (and the time) to see the world while she’s still young enough to enjoy it.

So, what’s your big “why”? It might be the freedom to travel, the option to spend time with your family, the ability to take weeks off at a time to care for a sick family member, or even to earn enough money to support a charity that’s close to your heart.

Whatever it is, your “why” is the driving force behind every action you take. When you’re deciding whether or not to take on a new client or customer, ask yourself if it’s aligned with your “why.” When you’re setting goals for the year, ask yourself if those goals are moving you closer or further from your big why.

Thinking of branching out into a new business venture? Make sure it’s in alignment with your big why, and success is suddenly much more attainable.

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What if you had the mindset of Oprah Winfrey?

How do people become successful? It’s all about YOUR mindset.

Think you can and you will. Think you can’t and you won’t.

I have 3 (S)HEros who I admire and all have a success-oriented mindset.

Let’s start with Oprah Winfrey.

She is the first African-American billionaire, a media giant and a philanthropist. Oprah Winfrey is best known for hosting her own internationally popular talk show, “Oprah” for 25 years. She left the show to launch her own TV network, OWN.

She is a TV host, actress, producer, philanthropist and entrepreneur. She had a tough early life suffering from sexual abuse as a teenager. She was able to overcome that situation and entered Tennessee State University. After college, she began working in radio and television broadcasting in Nashville.

She launched many authors with her Oprah's Book Club and created the O Magazine.  She created the Oprah's Angel Network which has raised more than $50 million for charitable programs, her favorite being girls' education in South Africa.

People love Oprah Winfrey's open, warm-hearted personal style. She is an amazing success. Her intuitive, goal-focused and hard-working mindset has created her incredible success.

Mother Teresa

Now, I know Mother Teresa has her critics and I did not agree with all that she believed in. Yet, she was an extraordinary woman. She had an astounding mindset.

During her lifetime Mother Teresa became famous for dedicating her life to caring for the poor and dying in the slums of Calcutta, present day Kolkatta. In 1979, she received the Nobel Peace Prize for her care of the poor. She donated all of her Nobel Peace Prize winnings to the destitute. After her death, she was canonized as Saint Teresa. Becoming a Saint, winning the Nobel Peace Prize is pretty successful.

Mother Teresa was the founder and leader of the Order of the Missionaries of Charity, a Roman Catholic congregation of women dedicated to helping the poor. The Missionaries of Charity is one of the world’s largest and most successful organizations. Since being founded in 1948 by Mother Teresa, her organization has raised millions of dollars. It has over a million volunteers in more than 100 countries. The Missionaries of Charity is still one of the most recognized brands in the world.

She was an incredibly successful business woman. There is a great business book Mother Teresa CEO written by Ruma Rose and Lou Faust. In the book, are the 8 “Teresa principles” which I love:

“dream it simple, say it strong”

“to get to the angels, deal with the devil; wait, then pick your moment”

“embrace the power of doubt”

“discover the joy of discipline”

“communicate in a language people understand”

“pay attention to the janitor”

“use the power of silence.”

These are all monumental mindset traits.

Eleanor Roosevelt

Eleanor Roosevelt changed the role of the First Lady through her active participation in American politics and her involvement in the U.N.'s Human Rights Commission. She was the first, First Lady to be so active outside her uxorial role.

As the wife of President Franklin D. Roosevelt, she had a world stage and she used it to become one of the most successful First Ladies in history.

She advocated for human and women's rights, held press conferences and wrote her own newspaper column. Eleanor focused mostly on helping the country's impoverished. She stood against racial discrimination. She traveled abroad during World War II, to visit U.S. troops. She was vocal, visible and valuable in changing the world in the turbulent time of WW II.

Let me share some Eleanor Roosevelt quotes that give clues to HER mindset.

“The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.”

“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”

“You must do the things you think you cannot do.”

“Do one thing every day that scares you.”

“Women are like teabags. You don’t know how strong they are until you put them in hot water.”

“Do what you feel in your heart to be right – for you'll be criticized anyway. You'll be damned if you do, and damned if you don't.”

“It is better to light a candle than curse the darkness.”

Notice the traits each of these remarkable women have. The three traits I notice the most are:

  1. Believe in your dreams and believe in yourself.
  2. Don’t let Fear stop you.
  3. Embrace your strength and speak up.

Change your mindset, strengthen these traits and you will be successful in all that you do.

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